What You Need to Know About Supervised Visitation in California
Supervised visitation regards when the noncustodial parent can only visit the child when supervised by another adult. Supervised visitation ensures the child’s safety while also supporting the parent-child relationship. Here are some ideas for supervised visitation in California.
It can be difficult to plan a supervised visitation that fosters the parent-child relationship while also being enjoyable for the child. Parents may also put pressure on themselves and feel as though their relationship with their child depends entirely on the progression of these supervised visits. Here are some ideas that parents can use to balance supervised visitations with their child in a way that is enjoyable and fruitful for the parent-child relationship.
1. Accommodate Activities to the Child’s Interests
Supervised visitation centers may not always have activities that are of interest to one’s child. Instead, parents should bring activities that they know that their child will enjoy if possible. Parents can pick up a book from the public library, purchase a board game, or bring other activities tailored to the interests of the child.
2. Understand How Long the Visitation Will Be and Alter Expectations and Activities Accordingly
Parents should plan activities that are appropriate to the length of the visit. Maybe they can read a chapter of a book with their child every visit, or play a game that could be picked up again on a later date.
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3. Plan Activities that are Age Appropriate
Parents should always try to plan activities that correspond with the developmental stage of their child. Many times, toys and activities come with suggested age ranges that could guide parents in their planning. If the child is older, it may be more age-appropriate to have conversations with the child about school, friends, etc.
4. Do Not Become Frustrated if the Visitation Does Not Go as Planned
Even if a parent is prepared, the supervised visitation may not always go to plan. Both the parent and child’s emotions are heightened, as supervised visitation can be a stressful process for both parties. For this reason, parents should be flexible with the activities they planned for the visit and talk to their child about what they would want to do. As long as positive steps are being made towards a healthy parent-child relationship, parents will be moving in the right direction.
5. Do Not Cancel a Supervised Visitation Without Sufficient Notice
One of the most important things to keep in mind regarding supervised visitations is avoiding cancellations. Emergencies do happen, however, cancellations should not develop into a bad habit. Children should not have to experience inconsistency with parent’s visitations, and therefore, canceling visitations should be avoided at all costs.
6. Understand that Supervised Visits Pave the Way for Unsupervised Visits
Supervised visits could eventually lead to unsupervised visits in the future, so parents should be on their best behavior. The supervisor may be taking notes that could be reported back to the court. Thus, parents should dress nicely, be mindful of their words, and be on time.
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7. Parents Should Be Mindful of Conversation Topics and Their Word Choices
Parents should avoid profanities when at a supervised visit. They should also avoid talking badly about the child’s other parent. Being vague and generally encouraging could work in the parent’s favor when discussing the other parent, as it will likely be reported back to the court.
8. Parents Should Avoid Venting to their Child
The frustrations a parent goes through surrounding a supervised visitation are understandable. It is important to have an outlet for these feelings. However, children should not be subjected to the rants of parental frustrations. In addition, those feelings should never be expressed near the supervisor.
9. Keep a Positive Mindset
Being positive throughout the visit will make one’s child more likely to open up and have fun. Also, supervisors will appreciate a parent’s cooperative attitude which shows them that the parent is serious about fostering their relationship with their child. This could accelerate the process towards non-supervised visitations as well as make the process more enjoyable.
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Hopefully, these ideas for supervised visitation in California help you plan for your next visit. If you or a loved one have any more questions about supervised visitation in California, contact us. Get your free consultation with one of our California Child Custody Attorneys today!